Our son who was born at 12:20am on May 30
2012 / 9 Sivan 5772, is named after a biblical character who lived in the land
of Judah some 3000 years ago. We only know four things about his name, and all
four of them are attributes we want for our son.
The first is that he was a wise
person. We learn this from the first Book of Kings where it says:
"וַיִּתֵּן אֱלֹהִים חָכְמָה לִשְׁלֹמֹה וּתְבוּנָה הַרְבֵּה מְאֹד וְרֹחַב
לֵב כַּחוֹל אֲשֶׁר עַל שְׂפַת הַיָּם: וַתֵּרֶב חָכְמַת שְׁלֹמֹה מֵחָכְמַת כָּל
בְּנֵי קֶדֶם וּמִכֹּל חָכְמַת מִצְרָיִם: וַיֶּחְכַּם מִכָּל הָאָדָם מֵאֵיתָן הָאֶזְרָחִי וְהֵימָן
וְכַלְכֹּל וְדַרְדַּע בְּנֵי מָחוֹל וַיְהִי שְׁמוֹ בְכָל הַגּוֹיִם סָבִיב:"
"And God gave
Solomon wisdom and understanding exceeding much, and largeness of heart, even
as the sand that is on the sea shore. And Solomon's wisdom excelled the wisdom
of all the children of the east country, and all the wisdom of Egypt. For he was
wiser than all men; than Eitan the Ezrahite, and
Heman, and Chalcol, and Darda, the sons of Mahol: and his fame was in all
nations round about." (1 Kings 4:29-31)
The second is that he was a
musician. We learn this from the account of the amazing ceremony arranged by
King David when he first brought the Ark to Jerusalem, where Eitan is described
as one of the Poets / Musicians who provided the soundtrack to this wondrous day.
וְהַמְשֹׁרְרִים, הֵימָן אָסָף
וְאֵיתָן--בִּמְצִלְתַּיִם נְחֹשֶׁת, לְהַשְׁמִיעַ.
And the
singers, Heman, Asaph, and Eitan were appointed to play the cymbals of brass - 1 Chronicles 15:19
Eitan is also the author of Psalm 89.
The third is from the first Book of
Kings 8:2, where it says:
וַיִּקָּ֨הֲל֜וּ
אֶל־הַמֶּ֤לֶךְ שְׁלֹמֹה֙ כָּל־אִ֣ישׁ יִשְׂרָאֵ֔ל בְּיֶ֥רַח הָאֵֽתָנִ֖ים בֶּחָ֑ג
ה֖וּא הַחֹ֥דֶשׁ הַשְּׁבִיעִֽי
All the men of
Israel gathered to King Solomon at the special feast in the seventh month,
called Yerach Eitanim.
Today we call Yerach Eitanim the month of
Tishrei, the month of the Hebrew calendar which has more festivals than any
other, including Rosh Hashana, Yom Kippur and Sukkot to name but three. The
festivals in Tishrei deal with our spiritual side, a time for reckoning and
accounting of our deeds, followed by two festivals of great joy and dancing.
If every month in the life of Eitan is like
that of Yerach Eitanim, we will be very happy for him.
In modern Hebrew, the word Eitan can mean any of the following words - constancy,
firmness, safe, strong or enduring. In fact, when describing different types of
streams of water in Hebrew, there are two adjectives. Nachal Achzav (disappointment),
which flows only during the winter months, and Nachal Eitan, which flows
all year round, whose water source is usually from an underground spring, such
as the river Jordan.
The fourth is that his name is a description
for social justice used on the book of Amos. Amos lived in the kingdom of Judah but preached in the northern kingdom of Israel. His major themes were social justice, God's omnipotence, and divine judgment. Under King Jeroboam II (793 BCE to 753 BCE) the kingdom of Israel
was incredibly prosperous. The gulf between rich and poor widened at this time.
Amos was called from his rural home to remind the rich and powerful of God's
requirement for justice. He claimed that religion that is not accompanied by
right action is anathema to God and prophesied that the kingdom of
Israel would be destroyed. Amos' message was, perhaps understandably, unwelcome
in Israel. Not only was he a foreigner from the southern kingdom, but his
prophecies of doom were completely at odds with the prevailing political
climate of hope and prosperity.
In chapter 5:21-24 Amos says to the
people of Israel on behalf of God,
“I loathe, I
despise your festivals, I am not appeased by your solemn assemblies. If you
offer Me burnt offering- or your meal offerings- I will not accept them; I will
pay no heed to your gifts of well-fed animals. Spare Me the sound of your
songs, and let Me not hear the music of your harps. But let justice well up
like water, righteousness
like an ever-flowing/mighty stream.
עמוס פרק ה - וְיִגַּל כַּמַּיִם, מִשְׁפָּט; וּצְדָקָה, כְּנַחַל אֵיתָן.
As a cultural Jew, these words of Amos,
that justice righteousness should be like a Nachal Eitan, resonate with me more
so than any other in the Tanach. Noam Neusner explains that this
passage in Amos is one of the most challenging in Tanach because it directly
contradicts what God told us to do in Vayikra, Bamidar and Devarim, namely,
celebrate festivals, kill cattle and offer them up as burnt offerings. Now God
speaks through Amos and says not only are these acts inappropriate, but
offensive if done with the wrong intention. What is the message of all this?
God does not want us to follow Jewish law,
whilst forgetting the message and spirit behind the law. He does not want us to
pay more attention to the kashrut of our food, than the words of gossip that
comes out of our mouths whilst we are eating it.
Bottom line:
True religion cannot be divorced from a just and moral society.
In his famous “I have a dream” speech of
1963, Martin Luther King famously applied this reference to the Nachal Eitan to
his contemporary situation when he said:
“We cannot be satisfied as long as a Negro in
Mississippi cannot vote and a Negro in New York believes he has nothing for
which to vote. No, no we are not satisfied and we will not be satisfied until
justice rolls down like waters and righteousness like a mighty stream”
In conclusion, we learn from the Tanach
that Eitan was a wise man, a poet and musician, whose name is both a
description for the most joyous month in the Hebrew calendar and a description
for the type of justice we need in this world. What more could we want for our
son?
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The second name we chose was Reuven after
my late father, who on the 16th of May 1948, was one of the first
children born in the state of Israel, just two days after her creation.
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Reuven Flescher at the age of 15, Polishing Diamonds in Petach Tikva |
From the age of 15,
my Abba worked in the diamond industry in Ramat Gan, originally polishing
diamonds on the factory floor, until he eventually became a gemmologist and was
brought out to Australia where he launched the first Australian School of
Gemmology, teaching people how to sort and value diamonds.
Starting a new life in Australia at the age of 29 with a wife and two
young children was not an easy task. Both my parents worked incredibly hard to
ensure that my brother and I were able to attend Mount Scopus for our entire education.
When I reached Year 7, my father wanted me to join what was an
experimental program at that time called the bilingual class, where all
subjects would be taught in Hebrew. I was a bit sceptical about this because I
thought
A: Why do I need Hebrew if I am going to live in Australia? And
B: Math and Science are complicated enough for me in English.
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Ittay's Brit Mila in 1978 |
What he said to convince me to join this program was that every new
language is like a new life. It is like a passport, which opens another door.
And even though you may not need it now, one can never tell what the future may
hold.
It was one of the best pieces of advice he gave me, as not only did the
Bilingual program greatly improve my Hebrew, but it was also the springboard
for my involvement and interest in studying Tanach, Israel and Jewish thought
in the original language, which was far richer than studying these topics in
translation.
This blessing of language is something I have passed onto Nava, as I
now only speak with her in Hebrew, and will also pass onto Eitan. On our first
Friday night at home, when Carm and I blessed Nava and Eitan together for the
first time after Kiddush, I was struck about how the words for the male
blessing are different from the female.
The source for blessing a male child
that he should be as “Ephraim and Menashe” the source of which comes from Genesis
48:20 which reads:
וַיְבָ֨רֲכֵ֜ם בַּיֹּ֣ום הַהוּא֮
לֵאמֹור֒ בְּךָ֗ יְבָרֵ֤ךְ יִשְׂרָאֵל֙ לֵאמֹ֔ר יְשִֽׂמְךָ֣ אֱלֹהִ֔ים
כְּאֶפְרַ֖יִם וְכִמְנַשֶּׁ֑ה וַיָּ֥שֶׂם אֶת־אֶפְרַ֖יִם לִפְנֵ֥י מְנַשֶּֽׁה
On that day Jacob blessed them, he said, "In time to come, the
people of Israel will use you as a blessing. They will say, 'May God make you
like Ephraim and Menashe'." (Genesis 48:20)
Many have wondered why Jacob chooses to bless his grandsons before
blessing his 12 sons. Traditionally, the answer has been that Jacob chose to
bless them because they are the first set of brothers who did not fight with
each other. All the brothers who came before them in the Bible – Cain and Abel,
Isaac and Ishmael, Jacob and Esau, Joseph and his brothers – had serious issues
of sibling rivalry. By contrast, Ephraim and Menashe were friends known for
their good deeds. And what parent wouldn’t wish for peace among their children?
In the words of Psalms 133:1
הִנֵּ֣ה מַה־טֹּ֭וב
וּמַה־נָּעִ֑ים שֶׁ֖בֶת אַחִ֣ים גַּם־יָֽחַד
"How good and pleasant is it for brothers to sit peacefully
together."
The
other interpretation for why we bless our sons to be like Ephraim and Menashe
is that they were the first pair of siblings who grew up in the diaspora, in
the land of Egypt, and maintained their Jewish identity.
With
that in mind, May you my two children Eitan Reuven and Nava Shulamit, be just like
Ephraim and Menashe, siblings with a great love for one another, and with a
strong Jewish identity that I pass on to you, that I inherited from my parents,
stemming from our language, culture and history. May these gifts lead you to do
all that you can to leave this world in a better place than it is now, at the
time you have arrived.
Thank
You
Special Thanks to Dr Roni Magidov who was
my supervisor at The Hebrew University in 2007-2008 who helped me write this speech.